I think my husband is cheating on me.?
I believe that my husband maybe having a affair with a woman I have never met. She is a realestate sales person I wanted to get her email to ask her about a house I saw. I have always had my husbands password to his email.
At the time he was going to spend the night at the hotel because he had to get up so early and drive so far. He emailed her about meeting up for beer sort of weird first off because he hasn’t had a drink in 30 years! But I let it go but desided I would keep a eye on this.
Last week he was going to go into town for his work again and he desided not to go last minute I found a email saying she couldn’t meet him. If its just a matter of not wanting to get up early then it just seems odd. Another time she kept texting and calling him but he lied and said it was a out of state number I could see her name from the place I stood he latter deleted the messages. He was also suppose to go to town but we had a emergency then. It don’t see why he would lie about it if there was nothing wrong.
This morning I found a email that was much worse. He talks about wanting to meet her for beers and talked about giving her a massage.
Another email for a different woman I never heard of he wanted to meet her for beers as well. This is a man that does not drink never goes out to party it just seems off to me.
We had problems several years ago. He was trying to make "plans" to meet up with a friend of mine and I confronted him. I haven’t seen anything like that till now.
At the same time all of this is going on he was talking to me about having a child something that I would love. And we have been looking at houses to buy. I just don’t understand. We have been married 5 years together for 6. I run a animal rescue so if we were to seperate it would be devastating to the animals we have. I don’t know what to do…..
"So why get all worked up? Just treat him like a stray dog, and everything should be just fine."
lol ok so I admit you made me laugh. But hey even my worst dog I can say I trust with all my heart right now I can’t say that with my husband. It hurts. Maybe it is nothing but something doesn’t seem right. If I ask him about it and its nothing then he will think I don’t trust him.
It certainly seems like something when he starts to try to hide and lie. And he talks about wanting to give he a massage I mean come on that doesn’t seem weird?
I love animals too, but you can’t ruin your life because you’re afraid to separate from your husband. Sometimes you have to make huge short-term sacrifices to save your life in the long run.
Yes, your husband is cheating on you and he won’t stop. No, you’ll never be happy with him. Cut your losses and end the marriage so that you can hurry up and rebuild your life – and then start your own animal shelter and do all the things you think today you can’t do. Good luck!
February 27th, 2010 at 4:05 pm
There’s no proof.
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February 27th, 2010 at 4:18 pm
I love animals too, but you can’t ruin your life because you’re afraid to separate from your husband. Sometimes you have to make huge short-term sacrifices to save your life in the long run.
Yes, your husband is cheating on you and he won’t stop. No, you’ll never be happy with him. Cut your losses and end the marriage so that you can hurry up and rebuild your life – and then start your own animal shelter and do all the things you think today you can’t do. Good luck!
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February 27th, 2010 at 4:33 pm
So why get all worked up? Just treat him like a stray dog, and everything should be just fine.
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February 27th, 2010 at 5:14 pm
don’t jump to conclusions
i kno it sounds weird but maybe you should send a freinds 2 spy on them…….it is the only way to figure out the truth……other than talking to him.
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February 27th, 2010 at 5:35 pm
Im really sorry to hear about all this trouble with your husband but it sounds like his eyes are looking for another woman other than you. I believe in God sending clues to warn you about things and I think you have had all the clues you need. A married man who loves his wife would not be exchanging emails with other women and ask them out to get something to drink and on top of it all offer to give them massages. If I were you I would straight up confront him and leave him right away. Trust me the longer you wait the worse it will get. Because it sounds like he is already out there testing the waters with other women for excitement, You certainly do not need that and I am sure you will be fine on your own and that you can definitely find a man who loves you, respects you and would never cheat on you. Good luck!!
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February 27th, 2010 at 5:54 pm
I think he probably is seeing other women, because if it were a legitimate appointment why is he acting so suspiciously? Maybe he is having trouble adjusting to the huge commitment of having a home and having a child with you, even though he wants these things. I am surprised you are taking this so lightly, actually, because if he is drinking, which is out of character, is he using a condom because you don’t know who he is sleeping with and what he may be catching, that could even be passed onto your unborn child if you decide to have one.
You’ve got to find out if he wants to go through counseling to help you two through this. Before you decide to have a baby or a house with him you need to know what he can be a good husband and father. I think you could possibly restore your marriage but trust is very important. Talk to him immediately that you need to go to counseling or your through.
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February 27th, 2010 at 6:07 pm
obviously you need to sit down and talk to him. let him know how you feel and what you seen so far. let him know he is busted. he will either say" yes i dont love you blah blah blah or realize that what hes actions are wrong" as i man i can tell you that we do stupid things at times and that we need to hear from people what we are doing wrong so we can open our eyes.
talk to him! dont be afraid.
time is ticking away!
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February 27th, 2010 at 6:31 pm
Your husband probably has an online profile and tries to meet women. His offer to give her a ‘massage’ is enough for me to consider this a cheating man.
If you shut down your animal rescue your animals will simply be placed in other shelters around your State. You should at least start getting information of what your options are for the animals. Good luck.
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February 27th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
I was seriously in a similar situation —- I did run an animal rescue -a non-profit. I had several dogs under my roof and I had to make a difficult decision to end a relationship….needless to say – it resulted in all but 1 of the dogs (some disabled) being rehomed and 1 being put down. It was HELL on me….I know EXACTLY the stress you are under…feeling like you can’t do anythign right and that standing up for yourself will result in horrible decisions……It ruined my reputation in a field that I had worked hard to build up integrity. It ripped the joy out of my heart – and its been years since I could face this without crying….
I hate to say this — but it sounds like your man is no good, honey. You need to kick his butt to the curb and or leave….Feel free to email me – I know the devestation and fear that you are feeling…..(((HUGS)))) But you **HAVE** to think about yourself…..in the end – dogs need owners and owners can’t be miserable and destroy themselves…
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February 27th, 2010 at 7:07 pm
It truly sounds like he has something to hide! I would watch him like a hawk, and at the first sign of cheating, I would throw his shit on the lawn and change the locks!
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February 27th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
Please don’t have a child with this man until you know for sure what’s going on with him. Look at the heartache this is causing you for the sake of the animals you rescue; imagine adding the fate of a child to that mix.
Your husband sounds like a flirt at the very least, a cheater at the worst. You need to decide if you can live with the distrust or not, because this sounds like behavior he’s repeated before and will repeat again.
Best of luck to you and your furbabies!
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February 27th, 2010 at 8:11 pm
This is not jumping to conclusions it is having facts thrown in your face. Hiding texts and phone calls? Hotel meetings? Massaging other women? You just don’t want to believe the worst about a man that you love. Husbands don’t make dates on their emails to meet other women for drinks and spend nights in hotels. Why would he be spending any time at all with this woman? He claims that he stays in the hotel because of the distance…yet he cancels the hotel when she can’t go. Does the distance get shorter because she can’t meet him?? As for having his email password, most cheaters have a variety of hidden emails that their spouses never know about (AOL, Yahoo, etc.). You don’t need to ask this question, as hurtful as it is you already know the answer. I would catch him red-handed BEFORE you confront him. If he knows you are suspicious he will be more careful. Put a key stroke recorder on you computer, get your phone records from the phone co. or simply go to the hotel he’s staying at and do a little spying. The fact that it’s more than one woman tells me he is probably on some of the sex sites that promote rendezvous with married people. Meeting for a drink is the standard way to meet. Get yourself some friends and some emotional support I think you’re going to need it. If you want some help contact me by email. I’m really sorry and good luck.
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